Daksha Patel 
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“It’s your road and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you” – Rumi 
Empowerment Pants 
Recently I came across a charity that sells “Empowerment Pants”. On the pants it says, “She Needed A Hero, So That’s What She Became”.  
 
It inspired me to write this blog about how often we look outside of ourselves for our Superhero and yet we all have the capacity to become our own Superhero through self-empowerment. The essence of self-empowerment really means taking 100% responsibility for your life. 
 
 
“If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far”. Daniel Goleman 
Thinking and Feeling Loops 
The more I study and read about personal effectiveness, it becomes more and more obvious that your emotions play a central role in everything you do. The decisions you make, how you communicate, problem solve, deal with people and motivate yourself has everything to do with how you feel on a moment to moment basis. 
 
Dr Joe Dispenza talks about how we create thinking and feeling loops, which become embedded into your subconscious mind. 
 
By the time you are 35 years or in that age range, you use 5% of our conscious mind and 95% or your subconscious mind which means that 95% of the time you are on autopilot. You you have 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day and 70% to 90% of those thoughts are same 
"As with the butterfly, adversity is necessary to build character in people” - Joseph B. Wirthlin 
Know Yourself 
How well do you know yourself? Self-awareness helps you to identify your strengths, how you work best, communicate, influence and respond to different situations. 
 
We are all different. By understanding the characteristics that make us all unique, we can play to our core strengths and develop our limitations. This way we work better together both in our workplace and personal lives. 
 
I have come across and completed many personality assessment tools used to identify core skills, strengths, behaviours and traits throughout my working career. 
 
 
“The number of stressors has multiplied exponentially: traffic, money, success, work/life balance, the economy, the environment, parenting, family conflict, relationships, disease. As the nature of human life has become far more complicated, our ancient stress response hasn't been able to keep up” - Andrew J. Bernstein 
Modern Day Living 
The reality is that modern day living is very different today compared to 10 or 20 years ago. The way we communicate has changed with the various social media platforms you have access to. Shopping habits have changed with products being delivered to you the same day with a click of a few buttons. Everything is now designed to get you from A to B in the fastest way possible. The mobile phone has become like a critical life organ without which most people can’t even function. 
 
“He who every morning plans the transaction of the day and follows out that plan, carries a thread that will guide him through the maze of the most busy life. But where no plan is laid, where the disposal of time is surrendered merely to the chance of incidence, chaos will soon reign.” – Victor Hugo 
Not Enough Time 
Last week a client told me that she found her job quite stressful working in a residential care home. She has been working as a Manager for nearly 18 months. She also said that because she got so stressed, she made sure she took lots of holidays and this equated to 30 days a year. When I asked her what she did to cope with her stress when she wasn’t on holiday she said she didn’t do anything because she didn’t have time! 
 
When you find yourself saying “I don’t have enough time” or words to that effect, what kind of personal reality are you creating for yourself? 
Just as a lily pad in a pond will rise and fall on the wave produced by a pebble dropped in that pond, so acts of kindness will raise the spirits of people we might never know.” - David R. Hamilton PhD 
Acts of Kindness 
Last week I had one of my best friends stay over with me for a week. She was in need of some “TLC” (tender loving care) so I invited her to spend some time with me. 
 
Unfortunately I had some work commitments already booked into my diary, so I gave her the key to my house so she could do as she pleased when I wasn’t there. 
 
After packing away my weekly shop on Sunday, I opened my bag draw where I usually stuff my plastic bags. The draw is so packed I usually have to close the door very quickly to stop them all falling out. 
 
Much to my surprise my friend had neatly folded every single bag and placed them all into one big shopping bag. I was so touched that she had gone out of her way to do this for me. It was such a thoughtful act of kindness. It really made me feel warm and grateful inside. 
“The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results.” – Tony Robbins 
Building Resilience 
Being resilient is about having a fully charged inner battery of energy so you can deal with whatever challenge and situation you are facing. No matter how big or small. 
 
James E Loehr author of Stress for Success said “High pressure is now a fact of life and a way of life. The only way to survive – and thrive – in today’s workplace is not to get rid of stress but to deepen your capacity to handle stress. This can happen only by exposing yourself to new levels of stress, developing a new response to stress and establishing a very special kind of mental, physical and emotional balance”. 
I know that each of us has much to do. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed by the tasks we face. But if we keep our priorities in order, we can accomplish all that we should. We can endure to the end regardless of temptations, problems, and challenges”. Joseph B. Wirthlin 
Boost Your Effectiveness 
It’s so easy to get busy every day with life and business that you forget to focus on your most valuable asset…. your health! I believe that sometimes it is the simple things that can have biggest impact. 
 
Without your health, you will be hard pushed to be productive and perform at your best. There are many benefits to being and staying healthy, all of which can have a dramatic impact on your business and personal life. You can boost your personal effectiveness by developing the following habits. 
“Give yourself a gift of five minutes of contemplation in awe of everything you see around you. Go outside and turn your attention to the many miracles around you. This five-minute-a-day regimen of appreciation and gratitude will help you to focus your life in awe” - Wayne Dyer 
Expressing Gratitude 
Many studies have proven that practicing daily gratitude can make you more resilient, feel more optimistic, creative, happier, determined, enthusiastic, energised, less stressed and build stronger relationships. 
 
According to Eric Mosley and Derek Irvine, authors of the book The Power of Thanks, "Gratitude magnifies the spirit and promotes well-being. In good times and bad, authentic appreciation creates perspective, literally stepping back from the distractions of the moment and affirming something more lasting than passing circumstance." 
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom” – Victor Frankl 
Did you know that chronic stress can shorten your life span by 4 to 8 years? 
 
When I came across this research, I was particularly interested because it related to caregivers. I’ve been a carer for most of my life. Firstly, for my younger brother who had Muscular Dystrophy and died at the age of 32 years and now for my mother for the past seven years. 
 
The reality is being a carer is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it can be very rewarding and on the other hand it can be very challenging and stressful. 
 
As a carer, the emotions I experience can swing from one extreme to another. Feelings of frustration, resentment and despair when I feel a loss of personal freedom on one side. On the other side feelings of compassion, kindness and love for my mother knowing she has lost all of her independence and much more.